May 5, 2013
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Something that just seems to be inevitable in this society of ours: facing judgment.

Perhaps it’s just us thinking that wherever we go, whatever we do, someone somewhere is watching our every move. But our egos can’t be that high to always be feeling like someone has nothing else better to do than to stare us down and pick apart every action we make, can we?

It’s why most of us have insecurities. Because judgement is a thing. Because most of us really do feel like, for the most part, whatever it is we do, someone somewhere IS in fact judging what we do. From how we’re dressed, how we act, who we hang out with, the list goes on…

Especially with social media (such as Facebook, Instagram, twitter, vine, tumblr, etc.) promoting everyone and their moms to upload their lives for the world to view, negative judgement is impossible to avoid. We’re all prone to it! And for most of us, it’s hard to avoid because we need to keep up with the times. We need to post #ootd (outfit of the day) and all those ratchet #gno (girls night out) photos. These photos are really unnecessary to have to share with the world, but we find the need to show everyone what we’re up to. To either let people know “hey I’m having a great life!” or “I feel pretty today”. Don’t get me wrong, it’s not a bad thing…it’s just a habit our society as fallen to. And before someone calls me a hypocrite - I do these things too. Well here we are, showing the world our lives, it shouldn’t come to a surprise when people start talking about it. It’s sort of like we make up our own tabloids. Celebrities get bashed on, we get bashed on by other minorities because we just put ourselves in that position to do such a thing. Someone will see your photos and have something negative to say towards it. It’s going to happen. And that’s when most of us will say “idgaf”.

Which leads me to say that there’s no privacy anymore. All 200+ of your followers know what you did last week, and most likely you haven’t spoken to them since…graduation of high school. This leads to gossip, and if people care enough it’s so easy to dig up information about each other because of all the information we just throw around. It’s like we’re unaware of it or something. Don’t lie now, most girls are like detectives and can dig up information about someone else that recently catches their attention so fast. To figure out someone’s hobby, likes/dislikes, music taste, the group of friends they have, and all of that.

At some point, people find out the things you’ve done in the past, things you’ve tried to escape, and you swear you thought that you did a good job a trying to keep that on the downlow as much as possible. But with people out there knowing what you ate last week…it seems like its just prone to happen. We then judge each other on our past. It’s like you can’t be a new person. You can’t really reinvent yourself…it’s difficult. It’s hard to escape what you are now ashamed of. It just sticks with you…

Well we aren’t all that full of it. I may have exaggerated a tad, most of us aren’t that interesting for there to be people on the hunt for information about us…but really think about it. People know about you. They do. Whether they’re aware of it or not. They know.

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Filed under: 430am rambles.... idk if this made much sense 
April 15, 2013

Inside my mind I try so hard to be what I said I wouldn’t be. To do it different - better - this time around…but I feel like this little creature inside of me is trying so hard to dig itself out onto the surface of my skin and unleash what I’ve been trying so hard to hide away. I am a monster. No body sees this…only I do. Front row seats to the disaster called my mind.

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February 26, 2013

Anonymous asked: Does Lisa still have a tumblr? If so what is her link?

I went out of my way to find the link for you. http://hellosasaa.tumblr.com/

You’re welcome. 

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February 26, 2013

The phrase is: “Forgive and forget”, the rebuttal for that is: “You can forgive, but you can never forget.”

Depending on the extremities of one’s wrong doings, the action to be taken by the victim (receiver of the action) varies. They can choose to forgive the person, or hate them forever. If they choose to forgive, does that entitle them to drop the whole situation as though it hasn’t happened?
In some cases, to “forgive and forget” comes easily because the action done was minor. However, one can never really just forget about major actions – never entirely at least. As much as you’d like to push something out of your head, and not hold someone against that one situation for the rest of your life it will always pop up again when a time comes. I’m not saying that when you’re with that person their shady act will linger in your mind the whole entire time, but in a sense that if something was to come up to remind you of that time then you will surely think of it again. You can never just forget.
The most that can be done is that you’ll drop it. You’ll drop being upset about it, and you wont hold them against it for the rest of the time that you know them. That’s what forgiveness is, isn’t it? Let’s see the connotation for “forgiveness”: 
forgive |fərˈgiv|verb ( past -gave ; past part. -given ) [ trans. ]stop feeling angry or resentful toward (someone) for an offense, flaw, or mistake : I don’t think I’ll ever forgive David for the way he treated her. See note at absolve .• (usu. be forgiven) stop feeling angry or resentful toward someone for (an offense, flaw, or mistake) : they are not going to pat my head and say all is forgiven | [ intrans. ]he was not a man who found it easy to forgive and forget.
Sometimes you wonder how someone can forgive a person after they have done so much wrong. It’s all mind over matter really. Look at the situation in whole, and then look at the sincerity of their apology. At that point, you make a decision as to if you want to take their word for it, or just look the other way.
Let’s take love as an example (since I happen to think I’m an expert at it, just kidding). Why does the girl take back the guy that broke her heart? The guy that told her, he doesn’t love her anymore, doesn’t want to be in a relationship, or whatever shit he said. Here’s a star couple to take a look at: Rihanna and Chris Brown. Everyone who cares is wondering, “Why in the damn world is she back with him?!” We all know the story, he beat the shit out of her a couple years ago…and now all is forgiven and there are rumors as of recently that they may be getting engaged. What the fuck, right? That’s something about love though it knows no boundaries. It’s strong enough to forgive the ugliest of deeds. For love, you can let go and look past things. It’s an interesting concept. But everyone has their own ways of handling things. Most people wouldn’t have forgiven Chris Brown if they were Rihanna, and most people would be deemed crazy enough to do so.
It’s not only love with a significant other, but it’s love towards a friend or family member. Generally, in my opinion at least, if a person is or was important to you enough, when they come back with a sincere apology it’s hard to just turn the other cheek. I guess ultimately, it all depends on how you look at the situation, and how you want to handle it. Like I said previously, everyone deals with problems differently. A lot of people are stubborn, and a lot are more forgiving.
In the end, perhaps you’d be less bitter if you had one less person to hate. Imo.
What type of person do you see yourself to be when it comes to forgiveness? 

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February 25, 2013

I tarnished your name with my harsh words out of anger and hate towards the things you’ve done, and failed to mention the good in you. And now Ive become the fool in love with a douchebag.

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February 25, 2013

I tell you the secret path to my soul.
In which you follow precisely, step by step.
You go into the dark alley ways and face the beasts,
Frolic through the vast field of daisies,
Climb over the ragged old wall,
And walk across the bridge to my soul.
No one has made it this far.
They turn away as soon as they face my faults, and don’t get a chance to see the beauty I hold.
I open the gates for you,
And let you in.

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February 23, 2013

(Source: kushandwizdom, via monicafoo)

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February 21, 2013

If by chance…the one who broke your heart came back and loved you more than you could imagine, would you give them a second chance?

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February 8, 2013
"Ladies, let me give you some advice. You can throw all your stupid fucking chick-lit, self-help, why-doesn’t-he-love-me books out, because this is all you need to know: Men will treat you the way you let them. There is no such thing as “deserving” respect; you get what you demand from people and how you choose to present it.. if you demand and extend respect, he will either respect you or he won’t associate with you. It really is that simple."

— Tucker Max (via t1ffanybabe)

(via geraldinee)

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February 8, 2013
25 Things You Wish You Could Ask Someone On a First Date

oh-tina:

2. Are you an alcoholic? Would I have to spend most of the relationship apologizing for your drunk ass? How #dark are you exactly?

3. Are you the one who likes to be loved more or are you totally comfortable with being loved less? This is important. Don’t lie.

5. How long does it take you to respond to a text? Because I can’t deal with longer than ten minutes.

6. Are you physically active? Am I going to have to climb a mountain with you?

9. Can you handle my emotions? Are you going to emotion-shame me every time I get upset and call me crazy?

11. Are you okay with me needing you… all the time?

19. What’s your policy on posting cute Instagram pictures of the two of us? For the record, I’m against it… unless I look really cute in the photo. In which case, hey girl hey! Look at how hot we are!!!

25. Lastly, are you cool with us doing nothing ever? I want to be the couple who doesn’t do anything besides wrap around each other like little octopus tentacles. Don’t make me go outside. Now that we’re in love, leaving the house just seems overrated.

No but really, sometimes I just want to be like “okay so can we be in love already??? Is that too fast?!” 

lolol

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